Been trying not to comment on Planned Parenthood, but I have to. At least I’ll start out and see what happens.

I have sensed for a long time the ‘agenda’ of who ever wants to stir the pot of problematic indecision.  I guess I can only discuss it from my point in living these past 70 plus years.

My most bitter disappointment is having to face the fact that religion comes in many forms and is used as a sledgehammer to address situations some people don’t care for, to enhance their agenda.  I see some of you wincing, some exclaiming  how wrong I am, and others shrugging.

There are lots of things in life aimed at making people wince, scream, and walk away.  If it happens next door, you are ready to stand and push the morality you live by.  If it happens in Egypt, Germany, England, Syria, or Iraq, we think ‘oh no, when will it ever end’….and then go on living our day. ‘Well, it’s kind of numbing after awhile’, you say…..and you are right.

When a politician becomes a part of criminal activity, we gasp, knowing that we expected more….and sure enough, got less.  And we go on….

When there is an auto accident that claims lives in another state, we think ‘what a shame’ and we go on….

When a couple become parents to a newborn who lives only a few hours because of birth defects, it does touch us…for awhile, and we go on.

WHY?……….

Me thinks it is because we really don’t have the answer and therefore can’t handle the problem thinking through our own personal moral and character beliefs and ADMITTING we don’t have the answer.

Playing God is always a good way out….think how many times a day we rate others actions and reactions. Think how we smirk at their dress or their language. Think how we roll our eyes when their opinions don’t quite match ours.  And then there is religion…..we really don’t like to get involved with that, do we. We and they…..We think, they think, we believe, they believe.. We forgive this way, they forgive that way. We think this law is okay, they think that law is okay.  We think they tread on us, and visa versa.

Now we don’t really play god with the big stuff…..mostly it is small time, cause we are educated enough in our every day living to make those decisions.  Oh, please, you know that is wrong…..we are God all the time, otherwise confession and prayer would not be so important.  We know we screw up….but there are small ones and big ones….right!

LET’S LOOK AT ME…..

I’m here to say I’ve had a pretty wonderful life, compared to most people. And yet, there have been some bad times. I’ve often said that some people could not have handled some of the things that happened to me…..and visa versa.  I know of some pretty bad things that others have incurred, and they have survived, continuing to become wonderful human beings, with souls of gold.  But let’s use me…… and I’ll go right to the core of this post…..I aborted at home at almost 6 months, and prior to that had 4 miscarriages.    A year later we adopted a wonderful little boy thru state where we lived.  We had him until he was twenty and because of his fetal alcohol syndrome, he felt his life would be better if he went out on his own and cut all communications with his family, and friend. We did not know he had this syndrome and neither did he.

AND OTHERS…….

I know of a wonderful gal who had 5 children and 5 abortions….why? Was it because of money, anger, molestation, fear, her health, the fetus’ health…..who knows.  Maybe all of them……it is not for me to judge. Her shoes weren’t mine and mine were not hers.  We all know of  girls who ‘went away’ when were in high school in the 50’s and 60’s.  Their shoes weren’t mine and mine were not theirs.  Lives so young, so full of trauma.  Decisions had to be made….and they were.

Many wonderful souls have died because of disease, time, starvation, and lifestyle.

Other pregnant women in countries whose names we cannot pronounce, or sadly even remember, lose their babies to lack of good nutrition, or good drinking water, a warm place to sleep, and most often, poor sanitary conditions when giving birth.

COMMON CAUSES…STILL PROBLEMATIC

Many families have children with diseases that should some day be eliminated.

Stem cell research shall become a ‘giver of new life’ for children of birth defects that have stalked generations.

Good nutrition, water, and being in a safe place should be put into operation at once, for everyone.

Molestation, lack of money, anger, and no family support….should be a thing of the past..

But alas, after all these years, they still remain.

TO ACT.. IS TO REACT… AND NOT  OVER-REACT….

Traumatic ‘you tube’ film shows in households all over the world.  Ugliness is always around….but how we handle it proves our character and worth.

Would I have a tough time watching an amputation…..you bet.  Would I have a tough time  watching war and the horrendous pain inflicted on men and women….couldn’t do it.  Would one wince while pulling critically injured people from auto wreckage….of course.  Would it be easy for me watch the caring of severe burns…couldn’t do it.  BUT PEOPLE DO…..BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO….to help, aid and assist the strangers they come to care for.

And so it is with research…..and religion…..They need to cross and match. The realization that human beings are helpful and helpless has to be discussed.  We cannot hide our beliefs any longer.  We need to take them out and look closely at why we believe what.

Planned Parenthood should be a place to learn and discuss openly optional birth control methods.  We can continue to scare one another into not getting pregnant. How well has that worked…..?

Most of all Planned Parenthood should be planned for and around  adoptive parents to receive babies that because of personal reasons, the mother chose to do so.  I say personal reasons, because I know there are many….and ‘walking in shoes’ is not for discussion here.

Having adopted, and watching the process with others today, it has become much more of a business than ’tissue’ donations ever were.   Who is to say who will be a good or bad parent…..and how do those rules apply to ‘anyone’ who becomes pregnant…there isn’t any is there…except and until the child is hurt or found not to be cared for, or starved, etc.    I remember seeing scrapbooks potential families had to design to show their home and back yard and family and how the room would be furnished, and all the outdoor swings, etc.  WHAAAAT!

Are you getting the picture now about what is moral to who….The laws governing parenthood are kind of not working, right. ‘Don’t tread on me’…  it is my right to get pregnant….and the laws say yes. How we work thru this ….should be a part of planned parenthood.

SO ….WHAT DO WE DO….

We change our attitude on who can be a parent and why.  We modify our reasons when it becomes a moral disaster to get pregnant within today ‘s lifestyle. We encourage good healthcare, before pregnancy, and birth control to avoid another moral disaster, finally admitting that we can’t make everyone into the same mold, that is to act, look, live, and believe like us.

We gently understand the loss of children, and further research the reasons for birth defects, in order to negate those defects.  We do not sensationalize pain, sadness, loss, and death when it comes to abortions or miscarriages….but instead encourage families of unwanted pregnancies to pass on their ‘gift’ to a family unable to have children.

We make adoption available, and don’t charge 2o% minimum of your yearly gross earnings…..We charge for prenatal care and having the baby, period.

We understand that some people do not want or need children…..and teach them that it is okay. Birth control is a gift to people who don’t want children, just as the opposite is of families who do, can’t, and want to adopt.

And maybe we take a second look at research of human tissue of all kinds, knowing that we already donate cadavers, eyes, lungs, brains, virtually everything we have to find the answer… Everything that God has made helps us understand everything that God has made, better, especially when we do it with kindness, understanding, and tenderness to others just like us.